TOP 5 STRESS BUSTERS

The secret to my normalcy

We are humans: we tend to be upredictable about our emotional outflows. Our expressions and moods vary over a drastically injurious range,specially if you are a girl, I can very well imagine how much your moods hurt you. Its normal,its good, until you dont regret over your emotional effusion.

I get the blues,too. A lot of people around me have started thinking that "I was in a terrible mood last night" is merely my pet excuse. Such people induce stress,i wish I had none of them in my life!

The following are my ways to deal with stress..some of them may be common(and that maybe because most of the girls are alike),but I still wish to list them for it may turn out to be something new for the other person:

1.Get rid of the "stress germs":
These are one category of those people around you who are important to you,but are a major source of stress. They can be a very close friend getting annoyed everytime you don't answer his call/reply to his text,or someone whom you feel strongly for,but his lackadaisical attitude towards you breaks down your heart. Get rid of them. Make space only for positive people in your life,with whom you cannot feel even an ounce of stress,and you dont need to think before you act. Ignore the stress germs,that's what hurt them most.

2.Listen to GNR :
I don't think anyone can question their talent(no one can DARE to). A combination of Axl Rose'  voice and Slash's electronic guitar is enough to bring the euphoria back.

3.Get a good sleep:
I know its not so easy to sleep when stressed,but it becomes easy once you are used to it. Its much like the toddlers,who go into a deep sleep after crying clamorously,aftermath of which they are absolutely normal. Cry,if you are not getting the sleep,but it should not be an infinite task. This should work,and incase it doesnt,try the next one.

4.Talk to someone:
Share your problems. Bottling up your emotions wont help,it would just increase the inthrust,causing the bottle to break away. It is advisable to have that one friend with whom you can share everything.
Tip: do not share everything blindly. My personal opinion is, no one can be fully trusted. To find out that one trustworthy friend to share everything with,listen first and then proceed: listen to how he responds. If he's assertive of speaking his views rather than listening more to you,he might not be of much use.

5."It's a phase: everyone has been through it"

Think of the positive side,don't think of yourself as an exception of "WHY" you are the victim (that's what most people question whenever a "dis-opportunity" befalls them). Some of the most famous positive views are:
a.This problem has made me more strong,for sure,i don't regret facing it. I need not to stress about it,thus.

b.The sky is always clearer after an eclipse. Its the same phase of the eclipse. Happier things are to follow.

c.Stress will take away my grace,and make me look aged. I cannot compromise for it.

I would sound impractical if I say these steps assure freedom from stress. Nothing can,even if you meditate it doesn't take away your stress completely,it can just divert your mind from the main point. Every step mentioned above can help to extenuate your unconsciousness,but the main solution lies in how you take things: you can choose to act like a hero:set straight up to face the problem,OR ,the loser:tensed and timid.

Superstitions: Why you should believe in them

I have never thought of pondering upon the presence or absence of superstitions,because  I've never believed that they exist. But yet, I continue to support them in a way or the other: I wear a 'kada',I believe in lighting up the incense stick infront of the god's idols before starting my day and some other gestures supporting it,too. Lately,Iv observed,it's just not me who supports them, but everyone around me does..and yes,I mean EVERYONE,just the level of practicing differs.

Now think about it : we,the educated ones,condemn the illiterates for practicing the "rigorous" superstitious practices,but we don't mind practicing them by ourselves. Well,Iam not supporting here the yogi babas who wouldn't even mind crushing a newly born's head by dancing insanely over him in the name of "freeing his body from the clutches of evil spirits"(it actually happened! The poor child died after a long struggle) but all Iam saying is,if we are educated enough to differentiate between the good and the bad,then why do we still support these superstitious beliefs?

I read it somewhere:One study found that a group of seemingly rational Princeton students nonetheless believed that they had influenced the Super Bowl just by watching it on TV. It's just not this,I have a huge list of the most funny superstitious beliefs in my closet,out of which some are as follows:

1. In Russia, the students follow a "freebie-catching" ritual  one night before their exam. Freebies refer to a good grade that a student may get when he has not prepared for the exam. So,the students shake out their book out of the window,in the air,saying "come freebie! No matter big or small,come!" and the book is closed,not opened till the exam time next day.

2. The "hollow bread" superstition: If you cut down a loaf and happen to find a hole in the loaf,the hole would signify a coffin and someone around you was to face death soon. Many people in the world still continue to believe in it. If it were so,I believe the bread maker should be arrested...for being guilty of making a bread with a hole :D

3.Black cat crossing your path: The poor creature would never have thought himself that his existence would be considered inauspicious. We see people,no matter how much they would be running late,still would not mind joining the queue of people waiting for someone to break the demarcation set by the black cat. A black cat is believed to have the soul of Satan himself. Poor overhyped creature.

4. Spilling salt: People seem to have a lot of issues with salt- its the notorious one in the superstitious world. Salt is considered to be a commodity that invites devil spirits. There are a lot of facts related to this,some of which are even written in Bible.So look before you take the act of splling salt forgranted,for you may be knocked down by devils :p

But is all this brouhaha worthy? I believe in a sense,yes.
Superstitions at times help you to find a rational logic out the the irrational,reasons why things around you are that way. When we don't find a reason,why you are living life in a misery,while the other person you know who is cunning to an unbelievable extent is happier than you are,you blame it on the "karma". You always have the support of "what is destined will happen,your efforts will make no changes" when you fail to make a change,then be it an explanation to why you weren't able to score good in an exam for which you had prepared to excellency. You always have the fear of the god in mind,which saves you,at times from doing the bad.."apni karni sabko bhugatni padti hai",remember? 

So lets accept it,in totality: Superstitions have no downside,unless they create an obsession or psychosis.They are for our good..leave alone the ideas of using them as a vindication of your mistake/lack of sincerity in trying to bring about the change. You  CANNOT blame the freebie for not scoring good,or you CANNOT blame the destiny for you choosing the wrong path.
So next time you see your classmate adorning a "mathateeka" for his exam, do not make the fun out of it,for there is even a study which says that superstitions do help in bringing luck . Maybe,he would score better than you just by mere gesture,who knows!

Four reasons why you should not blame yourself when you fail

  "If you are not failing every now and then,
its a sign you are not doing anything very innovative"
-Woody Allen

Rather the strongest lines that justify failures.
The topic might sound cliched to you,but I promise you will enjoy reading it,because it will give you reasons to be happy in life even when you lose in your attempts(no,Iam not any psychologist-in-disguise).

You build up your dreams,and are headed to achieve it,no matter how hard you will have to work for it. That,which is the most-important goal of your life,whose existence matters everything to you. And suddenly,all your dreams are shattered into innumerable(and apparently uncollectible) pieces. Life does not seem to move ahead(or rather,you choose not to move?),and nothing seems to be worth-loving-for.

Sounds melodramatic,I have never been through such a phase :D
Iv heard people saying this so often on their failure,that they feel like quitting everything from their life. Frankly speaking,this has happened with me too once or twice(note:while I was in school.Within a year,college has made learn to find ways to keep myself happy). My classmates used to whine upon matters as mundane as scoring a low grade in weekly tests(sick!) But does all this creeping-and-crying actually worth it?

As I said,I have learnt ways to keep myself happy,and so Iv found weird-yet-worthy ways to liften my mood in my failure. Following are the top four ways that work marveouslly to keep me happy:

1.I have such a great heart,thats just another example of my magnanimity!
"I have gifted my most precious thing for sake of someone else"-thats what hits my mind. However,the idea that everyone nowadays use it so frequently just for the sake of fun frustrates me,because when I say it I mean it. I really feel like a saint then,and have a positive feeling at some desolated corner of my heart that if not this,then there's something better waiting for me.

2."Its not the 101th blow that made the stone break,it were the preceding 100 blows!"
An idea to good to be pondered upon(and too good to be used as a vindication for your failure :p). Oh,failure again?Confers that Iam still not capable to handle the heavy load of victory! Never mind,Ive learned something new,and next time I'll be better than what I did this time.

3.Confessions of a "food-a-holic"
More eerie than insane,but it works as a great stress-reliever for me.Do not worry about how much calories you might put upon,just go to the kitchen and get yourself prepared a delicious glass of icey strawberry shake with yoghurt.Sounds tempting,eh?

4.There's so much to explore!
Certainly,you cannot miss this one out. Life doesnt end at one point,and there's so much beyond the thorns on the road you have taken. So what if you cannot reach your destination?There's the grass,the birds,the calm river and many more thongs around you which you have not paid your attention to,but greatly deserve it because of their pacifying quality,and peace of mind is something above everything else.

Though these "tips" may be some of the commonly discussed ones,but I guess you would have never thought upon them so meticulously as you did it today. So,now that you have the top remedies to overcome the depression,I expect you to thank me :D